For most of our marriage, I believed my husband felt nothing deeply. Sam had a way of moving through life that felt impenetrable, as if emotion simply slid off him. When our sixteen-year-old son died in a sudden accident, my world shattered. I screamed, cried, stopped functioning altogether.
Sam did none of those things.
Grief is lonely—but believing you’re grieving alone inside a marriage is unbearable.
Bit by bit, resentment replaced compassion. Conversations disappeared. We stopped reaching for each other. Eventually, what remained between us wasn’t anger—it was emptiness. I left the city, chasing distance I thought might feel like healing. Sam stayed. He remarried. We became strangers linked only by a shared loss we never spoke of again.
Twelve years later, he died without warning. Sudden. Final. The way our son had.
I didn’t expect the grief to return so violently. I thought time had sealed that wound. But loss has a way of reopening doors you thought were locked forever.
A few days after his funeral, there was a knock at my door.
It was his second wife.
She told me about a lake.
A place I had forgotten—but Sam never had.
On the night our son died, he drove there alone. It was where he used to take our boy—just the two of them. A quiet stretch of water surrounded by trees, where they talked when words felt necessary and sat in silence when they didn’t. Where stones were skipped and memories were made without noise.
She told me Sam went there often. Sometimes weekly. Sometimes daily.
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