Struggle to accept compliments or believe you deserve good things.
Self-sabotage opportunities because deep down, you don’t feel “worthy.”
2. Fear of Intimacy & Anxious Attachment
Affection feels confusing or unsafe. Tenderness can trigger anxiety instead of comfort. You may:
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Doubt the sincerity of others’ affection (“What do they really want?”).
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Vacillate between craving closeness and pushing people away.
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Feel overwhelmed by emotional vulnerability.
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Anticipate rejection or betrayal, often subconsciously.
3. Difficulty Identifying & Expressing Needs
You learned to silence yourself. If your emotions were ignored, you likely internalized that your needs don’t matter. This leads to:
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A habit of people-pleasing to avoid conflict.
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Trouble putting feelings into words (alexithymia).
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Minimizing your own pain or perceptions.
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Prioritizing others’ comfort over your own well-being.
- 4. Chronic Seeking of External Validation
An endless quest to fill an inner void. Without internalized love, you may look for worth everywhere else:
Gift baskets-
Overworking for praise or recognition.
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